Kathy Getting

No regrets parenting

In Uncategorized on June 30, 2011 at 3:34 pm

Because we are imperfect humans living in an imperfect world, we sometimes encounter situations where we experience regrets.  When our children make choices that turn out bad, we parents have often have regrets about our parenting.  We think, ‘If only I had done something different, things might have turned out differently for them.”  Being a mother with regrets about her parenting around the issues of alcohol use and the child of a mother with regrets (Honestly, mom, I think you did a great job), I decided to share this list of vital skills for parents I found at alcoholfreechildren

It seems to me, that if parents do one of these six tasks daily and all of them within the month, they will have no cause for regrets when their children are confronted with an invitation to use alcohol before they come of age.

If you are already doing all of these behaviors regularly, that’s great.  If not, choose one of the six behaviors you wish to improve upon until you have mastered them all. Then when your child is confronted with a decision around alcohol or other risky behaviors you can think of yourself as your child’s everyday hero instead of experiencing regrets.  No matter which choice your child makes.  

Kathy Getting

Is is you?

In Uncategorized on June 24, 2011 at 8:28 pm

Is it you?  That’s the question going around Hamilton County in the past week or so.  Fliers with a black mask and the above question were posted in business windows and bulletin boards across the county on June 16.  That evening, four-foot wide masks were drawn with chalk on the brick exteriors of the Daily Freeman Journal, the Webster City Police Station, and Fuller Hall.  People cruising by the next day looked and pondered, “Who is doing this? Is this the work of naughty kids?”

Friday’s edition of the DFJ contained a photograph under the cap line “Mysterious drawing”.  The caption noted, “A confidential source who spoke under the promise of anonymity said the graffiti was sanctioned and the kids who produced it were doing so for the community good.  Additionally, posters bearing the same image have shown up all over Hamilton County.  The sources promised more details would be revealed in the coming weeks. 

This Thursday more fliers appeared.  This time the word” Heroes Wanted” accompanied the black mask.  The fliers were posted just above the “Is it you?” flier.  This can’t be the end of it!

Kathy Getting

Bad Kids vs. Good Kids

In Uncategorized on June 17, 2011 at 7:54 pm

A differing perspective arose when a group of elderly people were talking about what was different between their lives as young people and today’s youth.  The conversation was flowing.  They noted that increased exposure to negative media, too much free time, too much money, and less parental and neighborly monitoring had resulted in kids who started risky behaviors at younger ages. 

Then someone who had arrived late, interrupted the conversation to say, “I’m upset about of you calling our kids bad. They are not. They are good kids.  I was watching kids play sports last night.  There are a lot of good kids. I see them all the time.”

He is right.  There are a lot of good kids.  They are the majority.  But, there are also good kids who occasionally make poor choices when it pertains to alcohol .  My son is one of them.  He went out for sports.  He participated in football, baseball, basketball and track.  He treats his elders with respect.  He drops in after work to check on his grandparents.  He spends time talking with them at the kitchen table, mows their lawn, and does any heavy lifting.  He stops to help others in need.  In fact, he was one of the two rescuers who stopped their cars help the sheriff when his bucking horse broke his pelvic bone while riding across a field a few yards from the road.  He is an easygoing, loyal friend, with a quirky sense of humor who doesn’t easily give up on friends. 

As an adult, my son continues to be involved in sporting activities.  But he also continues the binge drinking that he started with his older team mates he was just 15.  He has suffered a few consequences since then, but that’s another story. 

The point is that a majority of youth drink underage are not “bad kids”.  They are good kids who sometimes make poor choices.  They are our kids.  Help your youngster to make better choices when it comes to alcohol.  Be a good role model when you drink, talk to your kids about the dangers of substance abuse regularly, parse your trust, and stay involved in their daily activities.  Maybe your good kids can then avoid some of the costs that accompany early and excessive use alcohol. 

Kathy Getting

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